HE SAID, SHE SAID: FALLING IN LOVE WITH YOUR BEST FRIEND

Friendships are a key component to our lives and help us grow emotionally and mentally. In all its beauty, the dynamic is essentially rooted in a specific concern and care for a friend. Most times it’s a concern and care which might reasonably be understood as a kind of love, though at times a broader set of concerns begin to form and branch out, ultimately blurring the two. With such progression, love and friendship get lumped together as a single topic as you both experience life together bringing some to question, “How do I tell my best friend I’m in love with them?”

            When you’re best friends with someone and begin to feel a great love towards them, it’s not easy to deal with. It’s something that will bring forth a lot of thought and for good reason, as there’s a great inner fear of losing them, being rejected and the possibility of going down a path with unrequited feelings. Traveling from friend to lover is a road riddled with confusion and uncertainty. It’s not easy and though its a gradual process, falling in love with a friend is a big step. Depending on the friendship, it might twist into romantic love or it might even alter if things turn sour and unexpectedly head down an emotional affair.
            One of the hardest steps might be the single one that tears you up inside, where you wonder if you should you tell your friend you love them. Feeling love towards another is like putting words to a sensation felt inside.

LOVE???

Lab....... dub...... .lab...... dub..... lab...... dub..... lab......dub.....lab......dub.... Have you ever been in love? Well I guess, It is a "yes". Almost every human being had experienced that feeling. The feeling when your heart pounds faster everytime you see him or her. The feeling of having butterflies in your stomach whenever you talk to that special someone. The smell of sweet aroma scattered in every particle of the air when he or she is around. And lastly, the feeling of touching the heavens and floating in the clouds everytime you see a smile on his or her face while uttering the words "Love is really in the air."

Love, when being defined by many, is about having a relationship, having an affair. For them, it is a state of romance when even the tiniest cell in you body is being tingled. Well, that is true but love is not made just for affection. Love is beyond physical attraction. It is infinite. It is boundless. It is timeless. It is powerful that when being abuse can make you wounded in the end. Love knows no distance. Love is such a big word and in line with it's broadness, defying love is like limiting it's meaning. Two hundred and fifty words needed in this article is not enough to summarize the word "love". Giving meaning to it is like picking flower in a beautiful garden - to much of it makes it meaningless. Love has no meaning at all it is only been described by others. Love is not being defined but can be felt by everyone. Let the world revolve by love. Together let us sprinkle droplets of love to others so that someday it will grow fruitfully until no more booms of machine guns will be heard but only that 8 letters, those 3 words will be uttered "I Love You".

SELFLESS LOVE

           

          Another side of obsession are insecured and sacred to lose someone they loved. They are potentially high in getting jealous and eventually choked you even with little things, they’re getting insecure in someone who wants to cling on you. Though jealousy is one way on how to express your love to your beloved, you should know when to feel it, when to use it, on the right person and a proper manner to keep your jealous reasonable and acceptable. Learn how to trust partner and  confident “ENOUGH” to yourself so your insecurities fade away.

            Love is a working progress that keeps you on learning new things, helping you to understand more in life and when the time comes that love hurts you, it teaches you to be strong to face a new chapter of love that will come along your way. Love is a choice, choosing the kind of love you want to give and the love you want to take. Love can changed you in so many ways, perhaps your style, thoughts, beliefs and even your whole you. According to someone that I used to know she said “YOU’LL NEVER KNOW TILL YOU GET THERE” But one thing I know for sure about love, “LOVE IS PATIET, LOVE IS KIND. IT DOESN’T ENVY, IT DOESN’T VOAST, IT IS NOT RUDE, IT IS NOT SELF-SEEKING IT IS NOT EASILY ANGERED, IT KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS” and that’s the true definition of love from God trough the Bible!

“Totally in love with my best friend’s boyfriend.What should I do?”

The question is not what you should do, but why you have chosen to like a guy who is unavailable. Some girls think that love "just happens" -and if it's with the wrong guy, they can't help it. But the reality is that whether it's conscious or unconscious, we do choose and have control over which guys we fall for and pursue. When we select a guy who is available, we are willing to risk possible heartache for the sake of love. If we're emotionally healthy and the risk doesn't pay off, we know we can always pick ourselves up after the pain and find someone better.
          However, if you choose a guy who's unavailable because he's with someone else, the risks are obviously far greater-you risk hurting yourself, your friend and the guy. So why go there in the first place? Perhaps you envy your friend because she's attached to someone nice, and you have a crush on him because you long for someone special too. Clearly, that's a poor choice.
           The final and saddest reason a girl might choose a guy who's with someone else is to prove her power. Lacking self-esteem, this girl will try to entice a boy to dump another girl for her. This is an uncool situation-the girl will inevitably lose her friend, and how much trust could be involved between her and the guy? Not much. Especially since a guy who's quick to leave someone for you will undoubtedly leave you for someone else in time. Is that the kind of guy you want? Besides, what goes around comes around: Stealing a guy away from your best friend may come back to haunt you when your next best friend steals a guy away from you.
            What you can do is "do" nothing about your crush. Keep your friendship with both of them, pursue a guy you can have something real with and, most importantly, remind yourself you're good enough to get the whole cake, not someone else's crumbs.

LOVE TRIANGLE

               Somehow in some cases romantic love suddenly turned out complicated by adding party to your partner. The additional person called third party and this kind of relationship is “LOVE TRIANGLE”. Triangle cause obviously it consist of three individuals such as; 2 same gender fighting for the love of his/her partner (common cases consist of 2 girls and a man). They were just like sandwiches or burger, two breads or buns sharing for the taste of spread or patty. Usually it occurs when your partner lacking of attention, time or love to some priorities, and you, being impatient and uncontented will look for another that could fit your needs. This person that capable to fulfil you will eventually fell in love with you and that’s the start of love triangle and so the end of romantic love with your partner and certainly the start of complication. Same with torn between the lovers syndrome, you don’t know who you gioing to choose, you don’t know how to weigh who you loves the most so it’s hard for you to decide who’s the right one for you. It reminds me of someone saying that “You can never have both” , cause if you let it pass and pass through the day, you’ll never notice little by little you’re losing both of them until nothing remains on your side. They were movies that best example of a romantic love triangle like “Twilight series ”, “No other woman”, “The Mistress ” and many more. In some cases not just three individuals were involved. Somehow a “Family” can consider as a third party if the family interfere in your partnership as a couple whether on your family side or on his/her side we can considered it as third party and an example of this are “Remeo and Juliet”, “Sakal, Sakali, Saklolo” and “Kasal, Kasali, Kasalo” etc.
      

ONE-SIDED-LOVE

           One-sided love is when you love someone who doesn’t loved you back the way you do. It usually happens when you just push yourself to someone you like or love but couldn’t treat you the way you want it to be. With this kind of love, the one’s suffering, so much giving and understanding is the person who loves his/her partner so much to the extent that he/she becomes selfless the common effects of these to his/her partner is to become abusive, selfish and too much confident on their relationship. This type of love will never work no matter how hard you try, cause everybody know that building a better relationship starts with a good partnership, but how come?!? If you’re the only one who works for it. At the end of the day you’ll get tired and get  pity as yourself and you’ll say. “It’s enough, this is too much !” this is similar to a parasite syndrome, the one who gives love is your host and the one who receives is your parasite. The parasite will just suck your love till the last drop of it and you as the host will surely become , weak and dying slowly inside as the time goes by, so this kind of relationship isn’t healthy along the way, a year or two is enough to test if you could learn him/her to love you back, if it’s not enough of wasting time and energy for someone who doesn’t deserve you and don’t know how to appreciate good things coming from you. Letting go is such a hard thing to do but moving on is much harder thing to accept and to apply. It’s a long term process that only you could help yourself. Sometimes you need to do a mistake to get the solution for your problem cause after all, regrets always in the end.

PLATONIC LOVE

              They say that love is sacrificing, suffering and a lot of understanding. Some people believe that it’s full of magic, sparks and signs. If you ask our professionals they’ll answer you that still your mind controls your emotion and your heart just beat follows, that when you fell in love it was just hormones over. Reacting and produces stimulation going through your nerves circulating all over your body towards to your brain cells telling that you “kinikilig” or so called “in love” all of these were true and full of basis but in the end of it, Love is unpredictable, you never can tell when you’ll be happy or sad, when you’ll be together or alone, when you’ll be uncontended or satisfied but definitely all of these will come on your way when you’re in love. Loving someone or love by others is a feeling everyone wants to have. It’s like riding the in the clouds in heaven or sometimes in some cases it’s like living in hell. We’ll never know what will be the end of the love story we have, but what’s important is we knew how to love and we feel how to be loved.

          There’s a lot of definitions in terms of love as well as components of it and kinds of it. Love built of trust, respect, understanding, honesty, jealousy, time, affection, care, concern etc. and because of the divisions of these components a kind of love has built, such as; platonic love, romantic love, one-sided-love, love triangle, magical love, selfless love and so on and so forth.